<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[goldmatchakween.com]]></title><description><![CDATA[According to Olive]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/my-blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Thu, 09 Apr 2026 13:14:39 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[Who I Am And What You Can Find Here]]></title><description><![CDATA[I'm Olive. Let's start there. I am a historian, I'm currently on my last semester of finishing up a Master's degree in History. Mostly...]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/who-i-am-and-what-you-can-find-here</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6890c954d810284c9f5840e1</guid><pubDate>Mon, 04 Aug 2025 22:10:52 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_94e4778c829c4891b012d175d3072892~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[I'm Glad My Mom Died - Jennette McCurdy]]></title><description><![CDATA[**Trigger warning: ED and childhood abuse I remember when I first heard the title I'm Glad My Mom Died . I went through every stage of grief??? At first I was like oh, word—which quickly changed into this shift of uncomfortably having lost my own mother, to then disliking the idea of someone saying this to fully making it back to this title is iconic . I think a lot of us forget that our parents were not everyone else's parents. My mom had her own problems and faults, but not enough for me to...]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/i-m-glad-my-mom-died-jennette-mccurdy</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69b787b87616b147a204016c</guid><pubDate>Tue, 24 Mar 2026 00:32:31 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_11b8d1b1ce384fafa0c5b4d3a164dae5~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_663,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Ethics of Leaving Places That Shaped You]]></title><description><![CDATA[Growing up, I used to say that there was a curse on the place I'm from—that no one, absolutely no one, could leave. Most people here, if you asked them, would tell you they stayed because of family . It's always the excuse. You grow up here, go to college here, marry someone from here. You buy a house, have a kid or two—or four—and then those kids grow up and do the same. Like Kasey Musgraves said, it's quite literally a Merry Go 'Round. For a long time, I thought I wanted those things too....]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/the-ethics-of-leaving-places-that-shaped-you</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6993dc36b045026f02279c0b</guid><pubDate>Fri, 20 Mar 2026 00:59:26 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_856fe1a824e84bee87995eeb40a485bb~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Softness as Resistance]]></title><description><![CDATA[I honestly don't care what anyone says: I completely and wholeheartedly understand Ariana Grande's transformation. She's done it so beautifully and so intentionally. From her teenage years to even now, she's endured an immense amount of trauma. And while I know parts of her past have been silly—and sometimes extremely problematic—I still have to give her credit. She could've easily become hardened by it all. She could have turned inward and lived in that grief and anger for years. And shit,...]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/softness-as-resistance</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6993dc91b045026f02279cd6</guid><pubDate>Tue, 10 Mar 2026 00:34:10 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_408d6e8ed39a410281598f1d9ba1ac94~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Easy: A Netflix Original]]></title><description><![CDATA[What do you do when you're no longer surviving but you're not yet living the life you imagined? I started Easy  when it first came out on Netflix, and ever since then I've been asking people, " Do you know what I mean when I say Easy? " Most of them don't. Netflix was terrible at promoting it and quietly ended it after three seasons—honestly, I'm still surprised it made it that far. The show follows a web of people living in Chicago, all navigating sex, relationships, friendship, and creative...]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/easy-a-netflix-original</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6993dba9cf429c4fcb4de62c</guid><pubDate>Thu, 19 Feb 2026 01:59:54 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_602fe7f26a734acbb25fe4d74af49fbd~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_666,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Adult Money, Inner Child Problems: Why I Have a Shelf That Looks Like a 2004 Dream in My Living Room]]></title><description><![CDATA[Tiny Protectors Maple Plush There is nothing more comforting than realizing I am not the only adult still buying toys. I don't entirely know why I do this—and maybe the other adults doing it don't either—but there's something reassuring about knowing I'm not alone. On the 6th, I patiently waited through a countdown for a restock of Bratziez (that sounds fucking insane when I see it typed out). Am feeding my inner child? Do we ever actually grow out of the things we loved as children? Or am I...]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/adult-money-inner-child-problems-why-i-have-a-shelf-that-looks-like-a-2004-dream-in-my-living-room</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69867c5a96663872685ff162</guid><pubDate>Tue, 10 Feb 2026 00:00:43 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_214bd13619b94924863a463575517716~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Footnotes, Fate and Other Detours]]></title><description><![CDATA[For the last year, I've been trying to decide where I want to go in terms of my career. I have a bachelor's and master's in History, and I genuinely love it. I love the idea of spending my life researching, of going on for a PhD, of living inside archives and footnotes.  But there's another truth I've had to admit—one I've said before, but only now really facing. I studied history mostly because I adore it and because I'm good at it—not necessarily because I knew I wanted it to be the place I...]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/footnotes-fate-and-other-detours</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6982751051b22a5648376289</guid><pubDate>Wed, 04 Feb 2026 01:43:32 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_30aaf82661b44882b9ba5ee2388a6151~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Does Anyone Else Feel This Way?: Essays on Conquering the Quarter-Life Crisis by Eli Rallo]]></title><description><![CDATA[I randomly came across Eli Rallo's audiobook Does Anyone Else Feel This Way?: Essays on Conquering the Quarter-Life Crisis  while scrolling for my next listen after finishing How to Stop Breaking Your Own Heart  by Meggan Roxanne. As I scanned the chapter titles, something immediately caught my attention: every single one began with a "Does Anyone Else...?" question. The few that truly resonated with me was: Does Anyone Else Have No Plan? Does Anyone Else Know WTF to Do About Imposter...]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/does-anyone-else-feel-this-way-essays-on-conquering-the-quarter-life-crisis-by-eli-rallo</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69647f98f5c800c966549230</guid><pubDate>Mon, 26 Jan 2026 06:26:27 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_9ac154e56d5c41e5b1a851dfb38b794f~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_415,h_630,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[A Sagittarius's Travel Recommendations]]></title><description><![CDATA[Travelling via train from Copenhagen, Denmark to Jönköping, Sweden I've been lucky enough to visit many of the " big " cities, but a few of them have settled into me in a way that feels permanent. I'm always drawn to beautiful spaces, immersive experiences, museums, and places that feel like small worlds inside larger ones. New York, New York My favorite city in the world is—and always will be— New York City . Honestly, this could've been its own blog (and maybe it will be). The...]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/a-sagittarius-s-travel-recommendations</link><guid isPermaLink="false">689153cf79a7f6de131d3c84</guid><pubDate>Tue, 20 Jan 2026 00:08:04 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_392c5d081ca442a6a450b12cffc33a4b~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[A Gentle Saturn Return Intro]]></title><description><![CDATA[Any time someone mentioned my—or our— upcoming Saturn return, the one due to hit on May 24th, 2025, I'd close my eyes, cover my ears, and yell just to avoid hearing another word about it. Even though this return would only last until September, every story I heard made it sound horrid: people forced into uncomfortable situations, stripped down and rebuilt in the name of "personal growth." On May 24th, I opened my eyes. And the world was not engulfed in flames. Yet. I accepted that change was...]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/a-softer-saturn-return</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6959b728564ad52a959320e2</guid><pubDate>Fri, 16 Jan 2026 00:09:03 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_d91523fba67048fb98ee2353f8dfea96~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Notes on Healing (in Pink)]]></title><description><![CDATA[I have no idea where or when I first came across what I'll call, " the girls liking pink  again " theory. From what I understand, it suggests that a woman renews an interest in the color pink during a period of emotional healing—symbolizing emotional healing, self-acceptance, and a return to femininity after a period of hardship or self-neglect. According to Google, it's a metaphor for embracing vulnerability and self-care as a luxury rather than a weakness—an indication that she finally...]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/notes-on-healing-in-pink</link><guid isPermaLink="false">695c43a83015b8c81104f9ed</guid><pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2026 23:52:06 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_4d9b0435cdee4b5da2b9bd195b19c1a5~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[How I Made My Own Birthday Cake]]></title><description><![CDATA[For years , I have been on a deeply personal quest to find a baker in the area who could make me the lunchbox cake of my dreams. And by dreams, I mean very  specific  expectations  (hello, perfectionism). Either no one could quite get it right, or—worse—they didn't take orders in December. Which, frankly, feels like a targeted attack on Sagittarius babies everywhere. So what are we left with? Making our own cake. A quick disclaimer : my family and friend did  try to stop me. They very...]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/how-i-made-my-own-birthday-cake</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6959a0cf7098baf60224b4e3</guid><pubDate>Tue, 06 Jan 2026 00:39:02 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_bd3281c5a7cd4f79b5fb8133240849ae~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_912,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Bail Reform: A Conversation That's Missing in Today's Topics]]></title><description><![CDATA[Over the last few years, I've found myself becoming deeply involved in true crime. Usually when I mention this to someone, they are either eager to dive into the darker parts of the subject or they're not interested at all. For me, though, true crime has introduced so many different parts of the justice system that desperately need more awareness. Through listening, reading, and learning, I've become increasingly aware of the plethora of mistakes made in these systems. My interest has shifted...]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/bail-reform-a-conversation-that-s-missing-in-today-s-topics</link><guid isPermaLink="false">689158a279a7f6de131d4848</guid><pubDate>Wed, 31 Dec 2025 00:16:29 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_70e0379effd5498b8e1f1e4a8a47bcd1~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Another Era Loading...The Many Lives of My Aesthetic]]></title><description><![CDATA[406, 2023 Over the last decade, my aesthetic has changed more times than I can count. My late teen years and early twenties were basically me trying to figure out who I was. My sense of style, decor, even my color palette—everything was all over the place and it drove me insane. I felt like I couldn't catch up to who I was supposed to be. (My Libra moon...yet again.) By 23, something, somewhere clicked. My aesthetic shifted into all neutrals. White, brown, black, beige—my clothes, my...]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/another-era-loading-the-many-lives-of-my-aesthetic</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68915a4e703020ba46ea0f3a</guid><pubDate>Thu, 27 Nov 2025 15:29:46 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_98d96ed88b07460a9b4167e63cc443ef~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Introduction to Perfume Led to True Love: My Collection]]></title><description><![CDATA[I've always loved a good perfume, but for the longest time, I never thought too deeply about them. I usually went for my Glossier You  or my Victoria's Secret Bare  and call it a day. Those two were my go-to "signatures," and honestly, they still feel like and represent versions of me. But then I fell down the rabbit hole. I was introduced to scents in a different way and since I started learning more about fragrance families, notes, and laying—and suddenly, perfume became something deeper....]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/introduction-to-perfume-led-to-true-love-my-collection</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68915481d213981e822d5b3a</guid><pubDate>Sun, 23 Nov 2025 02:14:39 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_39ee24f467de447d8b754500e2a62483~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Enemy Territory]]></title><description><![CDATA[KLVN's Coffee Lab, Pittsburgh, 2023. I've been off and on my blog due to working on my Master's thesis. But you know, I always have plenty to say. I finally had a break to discuss what my mind has landed on for the past few days. Have you ever found yourself in enemy territory  inside your own romantic relationship? It starts out sweet, exciting. And then, somehow, months go by and you're suddenly dodging harsh comments and odd behaviors left and right? It's only happened to me once, but I...]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/enemy-territory</link><guid isPermaLink="false">691b7781a1ddf340182ade4d</guid><pubDate>Thu, 20 Nov 2025 21:53:06 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_f68944d4843341b68ce539cb921ed76d~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Love, Hope, and the Echo of Narcissism]]></title><description><![CDATA[I've been thinking a lot about narcissism lately. It's been a hard process to swallow. Recently, while I was sitting in therapy, I was describing a dynamic in my life when my therapist gently suggested that what I was dealing with sounded like strong narcissistic traits in someone. Hearing that landed in my chest like a literal stone. It was as if, in that moment, I had one of those "That's So Raven" moments, instead of the future, it was just a series of flashbacks. My mind racing through...]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/love-hope-and-the-echo-of-narcissism</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68f591cf81fa67640662b11c</guid><pubDate>Mon, 03 Nov 2025 21:17:29 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_84d9db88d99b476a87e050badc57e595~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Where Does Rage Go?: Panic Disorder In All Its Glory]]></title><description><![CDATA[On a summer night in 2023, I was sitting around a fire, having dinner with my friends. We were laughing, acting up, enjoying the usual chaos, when suddenly the strangest sensation flooded over me. I felt extremely lightheaded. I announced that something felt wrong and tried to lay down—but standing up sent me tumbling to the ground in the yard, just sitting and staring. My vision blurred, I was disoriented, and I couldn't walk. I managed to scare my friends, though I barely noticed them....]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/where-does-rage-go-panic-disorder-in-all-its-glory</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68915569703020ba46ea030a</guid><pubDate>Mon, 20 Oct 2025 22:02:26 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_4164a5569d894200810eeea03ac04678~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Scandinavia: An Unexpected Treasure?]]></title><description><![CDATA[Olive in Copenhagen, 2025 If you'd told me three to five years ago that my career would one day involve a deep connection to Scandinavian culture, I'd have been...confused. Even though I had adored the "Vikings" course I took in undergrad, I still never would've guessed this would become such a meaningful part of my life. I won't go too much into my job— only that it's opened up another side of history I hadn't found myself thinking about before. Two years into working with the company, I was...]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/scandinavia-an-unexpected-treasure</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68915416f741774de105cbbe</guid><pubDate>Fri, 10 Oct 2025 05:29:24 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_46c3f32939a54d8380631265f661d4cf~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Quiet Anger]]></title><description><![CDATA[I grew up with an angry man in my house. A loud, angry man. A terrifying—a truly terrifying—angry man. I would look in the mirror as a child, sometimes crying—pinky promising myself that I would one day get out of there and, that I most certainly could and would not ever end up like him.  Flash forward about 22 or 23 years, and for the most part, I’ve kept that promise. I’ve felt upset, misunderstood, and annoyed—but angry was not an emotion I felt often. A rarity. There were entire years—365...]]></description><link>https://goldmatchakween.wixsite.com/goldmatchakween/post/quiet-anger</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68e8500f4bab99a0463b02bb</guid><pubDate>Fri, 10 Oct 2025 03:10:55 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a1e249_9d40628598d84b8a936124b58a8fbdb8~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>oroberts0914</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>